I had a moment over the weekend. I was cooking, listening to music, and having a great time of it. I was thoroughly enjoying myself! I turned around and my kitty was on the couch watching me. I asked her is she was happy and wanted some nip.
Then a thought hit me… Should I be lonely? Should I need someone here? I tried to picture someone sitting on the couch waiting while I made dinner. Or sitting at the bar, with idle chatter. And try as I might I couldn’t bring myself to feel like I was missing out. I felt happy in my moment. Not missing some relationship. I do miss my friends and it would be nice to have company. But I don’t need it. That is the most important. I see so many couples need that 24/7 attention and the claustrophobia kicks in. There is a old saying I heard and can’t remember where; you must first learn to be happy by yourself before you can be happy with someone else. I have learned that I can be happy on my own. It makes me fulfilled to know that I am able to survive no matter what!
Alright Folks, I have found it. This is our goal for ourselves! We must help each other achieve this goal. If we can do that the world would be healed.
One can not sustain happiness all of the time. (Excerpt from The Long Way to a Small, Angry Planet)
This book I am reading has some very good points in it. A person truly cannot hope to be happy every moment of the day. It is nearly impossible to hold that level of emotion for any length of time. It normally wanes into contentment. I was always annoyed when people would say, “Be happy!” because I knew you couldn’t sustain it. So keep that in mind when society is pushing you to always be happy. You don’t have to! It is ok to have sad times or angry times. That is normal and 100% acceptable. It is your actions when you are in any emotion that defines you, not the actual emotion.
I have had a rough go of things lately. Even though I try I do take things personally. I think we are all the same in that. It’s hard not to get frustrated with the injustice of the world. However, it won’t do us any good if we focus on these unchangeable things. So to counteract the negative we must be extra positive. Bring good things into our lives isn’t easy. So stop and smell the roses, or any flower you see. Take in the shapes of the clouds and ripples on the water. Be awed by the different shades of colors on the cars in your gridlock. Just look positively and it will change your whole day. I know it is a struggle for me so we must be supportive of each other!