I was in the lunch room and a co-worker randomly mentioned to me that “life is hell.” I asked if it was all parts of life or something specific. I was told it was here at work. It got me thinking. I was thinking about how we perceived our environment and how it affects us. I was going to tell him about focusing on the good but I knew it wouldn’t do any good. This person always complains about how life is so horrible. I agree that our work environment is quite poor and it is, in part, our fault letting it get this bad. However, you can change your situation. You are not a tree. You can move; to another place, situation, or mindset. It is possible. It takes compromises and work but it can be done. I was quite miserable a few months ago but I worked to change the situation. It is some you have to work toward. So if you feel that your life is hell…. Change it!!! You have that ability. It might not be a perfect change and it might not be immediate. Don’t be miserable because you don’t want to make the effort.
Acceptance of others and yourself isn’t an easy thing. It is difficult to accept your current place in the world. We all want bigger and better things and quite often we want the things other people have. The hardest part is just been content with what you have at this present moment. To not get caught up in the wants and desires of all those around you. If you can accept yourself it will be easier to move on in life. You might not be where you want to be but for this moment that is ok and work towards your goals. Keep that in mind when you pine after things you don’t have. It will change the way you act towards everyone around you.
Today out of the blue the person who I consider as my ex-wife texted me. She asked after me and told me she missed me. She told me I was her everything; with out me she was nothing. And as any heart sore person knows this was water to a desert. I couldn’t tell her how much it hurt to talk about these things. How much I wondered if she was missing our friendship or just my company. As we talked more I began to wonder what these words mean to her. They must mean something different to me. Where do I fit in? Does she understand my feelings? Do I? It isn’t an easy thing. Humans are so poor in communication. No promises were made and we left things as they are. I never really thought I would feel this way about another person especially a girl. (For more about her click here) I am at a loss for what to do. I suppose the best thing is to carry on as always until something different happens.
In this crazy world that we live in it is so hard to remain humble. It is something I have always struggled with. I know the more humble I stay the better choices I make and the less drama in my life. If I could go back to my younger self that is something I would tell me. Remain humble. If we could all be a little more humble I feel that the world would be a bit brighter.
So much has happen in the last few weeks. I have gotten two, possibly three offers to transfer. All my desire to leave MN and now I don’t have time. In the last three weeks I have traveled half the east coast and tramped around DC. Waited by the phone as my sister was over taken by one of the largest hurricanes to date. Spend too much time with my mom but appreciate her all the same. And still not enough time.
But there is always time to take in the moments. It only takes a moment. I thought about it when I noticed so much change in the leaves since I’ve been gone. In the smell of rain. In the love of my cats.
So if cats aren’t your thing that’s totally fine. If its cars, video games, a breeze, or whatever makes you realize that when your life seems to fall apart you can focus on these tiny moments and see so much more. Find your peace. It will help in more ways then you will ever know.
Take the time to stop and smell the roses. I am in Washington DC for work. I walked by a fountain that was just awesome. It was similar to water over very shallow rocks. And I stopped and made my day so much better. You might not be somewhere so nice like that but you can find beauty anywhere.
I caught a blip on the late night news last night. The speaker stated, something to the effect of, You have the freedom of speech but it does come with consequences. That quote stuck with me as being very true. We do have the right to speak about whatever we want. However, many people do not think about their words. In the last few years, words of hate have been spoken with abandon. Hate and fear are great motivators but have huge impact on the people they are directed towards. It is to us to stop speaking words as if they don’t have consequences. We need to lead the revolution to stop hate from spreading. There is never a reason to use words in hate and hurtful intent. Focus on what comes out of your mouth this week and see if you can change this downward spiral in our world.