I talk a lot about kindness and being kind. I should also talk about what kindness really is. I didn’t know what good kindness was for many years. True kindness is an action that doesn’t cause you undo burden. For example, I use to spend a lot of my time and money being kind to other people. I thought the more money I gave and the more inconvenient it was meant I was being “kind.” In reality kindness is giving when you would or could have walked away. Sometimes money or time is involved but it doesn’t leave you destitute. Make sure you practice healthy kindness!
After being away for 10 days my cats have been really affectionate. The really are cuddle-y and more loving then normal. Really it feels great to come back to all that warmth. Also makes me realize how much we need/want each other. I am sure we all overlook some aspect of our lives, whether alive or not, that we can only appreciate more once we come back from a separation. Separation is good. Of course, you have to be mindful of what you are missing or missing you to really appreciate it.
I recently watched a show that made mention that we forget the bad and polish the good of people we remember. Often times we are shocked when we remember something bad. This is OK. Its OK to forgive the bad and remember the good. It helps us carry on. So keep that in mind they were human and made mistakes but that’s OK. Someday someone will think back on you and only remember the good.
All too often we get caught up in our own little world. We forget the world doesn’t revolve around us. We forget to take a moment and be part of our surroundings. My day in and out is work and home and work. Paying bills and looking for things I want. What time do I take with thoughts on others? Or for that matter what times does others think of others? Do you worry about your pocket or do you leave yourself behind and put others first? Often times, I’ve noticed, when all we think about is ourselves we tend to mes it up. We screw over our friends and family for our own gain. But in the end we never get ahead.
Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? And why take you thought for clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
The winter season sees a lot of loss. The trees and greens things hide and many animals try to sleep it out. There is also a culling of the human population. Winter is very hard on the elderly. So for those who have love ones who might struggle to make it through the winter, spend time with them. In fact, spend time with all your love ones. We never know how many breathes we have left. Spend them with friends and family.
I am here. Where we once were together. Its been so long I didn’t think I would think of you. But the memories come flooding in. I’m near to drowning. To take a breath is to risk a rise in the water.
I was at the place we spent long nights and early mornings. Your ghost haunted me as I walked the streets. Your words were whispered on the breeze. If I look just right you are silhouetted in the setting sun. I called your name.
I met someone who lives where you do. Or where you once did. Being near to them made you near. Do you feel my presence? Do you know how close I am standing? I can touch you.
After so long how you torment me still. The miss of your touch, your voice, your smell makes me weak and near to dieing. We shall never see each other again. However, in my memories you will never die. You are now immortal, sucking my life from me.
I was in the lunch room and a co-worker randomly mentioned to me that “life is hell.” I asked if it was all parts of life or something specific. I was told it was here at work. It got me thinking. I was thinking about how we perceived our environment and how it affects us. I was going to tell him about focusing on the good but I knew it wouldn’t do any good. This person always complains about how life is so horrible. I agree that our work environment is quite poor and it is, in part, our fault letting it get this bad. However, you can change your situation. You are not a tree. You can move; to another place, situation, or mindset. It is possible. It takes compromises and work but it can be done. I was quite miserable a few months ago but I worked to change the situation. It is some you have to work toward. So if you feel that your life is hell…. Change it!!! You have that ability. It might not be a perfect change and it might not be immediate. Don’t be miserable because you don’t want to make the effort.